Unlearning: For Change Agents

Session Two: Unlearning Judgement of Others

Think of a person in your life or in public life that you disagree with. What’s it like to be them? What is their history, their background? What made them become the person they are today? Why do they act the way they do? What are the conditions that maintain their stories and beliefs? In this session, we discuss unexamined habits and assumptions that interfere with our connection to others. We explore the power of naming the gifts we see in others, because the way we see and narrate another person creates an invitation that they can live into.

Invitation: Unlearning Judgement of Others

The habit of judgement is deeply rooted in the modern mind; perhaps it is nearly universal among humanity. The essence of judgement is, “If I were you, I wouldn’t have done this, I would have done that… I am different… I am better. In this week, we go on a fast from habits of judging, diagnosing, evaluating, and comparing ourselves to other people. We notice these as they come up, and give attention to our desire and willingness to take a break from judging.

Session Transcripts

Many thanks to Laura Siegel and Stella Osorojos for transcribing these sessions!

All Session 2 – Unlearning Judgement of Others (transcript)

For Further Exploration

• Judgement
  In Chapter 25 of my book, The More Beautiful World our Hearts Know is Possible, I discuss separation, judgement of self, and others. “Given how pervasive and deep-rooted the structures of scarcity and struggle are, it is no wonder that we bear their imprint on our own psychology. How do we free ourselves?…”(more)

• What Is It Like to Be You?
  In this short film assembled by Chris Agnos of Sustainable Human from footage shot by XYZ, I discuss the question “What is it like to be you?” as a guiding concept for how we create our world and relationships with others.